Having not been too well these past few months I am having to take a back seat in life and learn to say no more than I have done in the past. I am still struggling with being very fatigued and spending most of the day rather dizzy. I can tell you this, its not fun. But I know that I need to take care of myself in order to recuperate and get back to how I was before I was taken ill. Even thought I have a number of chronic illnesses I don’t like being ill and very rarely like giving in to being ill. But I have learnt that this is something I need to do right now and I really have very little choice in the matter.
I am taking a step back and I am starting to learn to say no. Something I have ALWAYS struggled with! Are you with me in taking on too much and feel like you need to take a step back and learn to say no more often?
Here are 7 ways I am saying no to people without feeling the guilt:
- Its ok to do so. You are allowed to say no to others who zap your time and energy. You are allowed to say no to others who are taking advantage. You are allowed to put yourself first.
- Accepting you must say no. It’s hard to do if you have never done this before. Personally I struggle to say no to others. But I am going to try. I know I can and must do this.
- Postpone. Its fine for me to say that I will have a think about something when I have been asked. I am not always going to always think I must say yes.
- Try an alternative. Instead of saying no, I am going to suggest something else that suits me better than what I have been asked to do if I still wish to have involvement in something.
- Take a deep breath. I am going to start to do this more and it will work.
- I’m going to go with my gut instinct. My guts are not good, in fact they are down right rotten but I am going to start listening to my initial instinct when asked to do something. If it doesn’t feel right for me I’m going to say no. I am fully aware that this will not go down too well with people but hey, it’s time I put myself first.
- I am going to get straight to the point. No more umming and arring about what to do. This is something I have never really been good at But I am so going to say no thanks if something is not right for me. I have to start to put myself first.
Do you struggle with saying no to people who put demands upon your time, energy and good will?