There is something very powerful behind the words “I am.”
Whenever you say to yourself “I am…,” what follows is influential; whatever follows is an affirmation, something you eventually begin to believe in. Do you ever find yourself thinking “I am so stupid for doing that,” “I am so tired of all of this,” or “I am not good enough?” I know I am. I sadly say things like this to myself far too often. It’s a hard habit to break negatively talking to yourself.
Thoughts like these seem to come very easily to a lot of people, myself included. I find it happens on those days when I may be feeling down about something or when life isn’t going to plan. The thing about life is that things don’t always go how we planned and in life, there will always be things that disappoint us.
Here are three things to tell yourself when life is getting the better of you:
I Am Wonderful And Unique, Nothing Can Replace Me
So many of the thoughts we think about ourselves are ones we hold subconsciously. We’re not always fully aware of them or the power they carry. It’s very easy to feel small, inadequate, or simply disappointed with yourself when you’re having a bad day or when nothing seems to go your way.
Whenever you say “I am,” especially when feeling down or upset, try to remind yourself how wonderful and unique you are. This is not about conceit or boosting your ego. It’s not about being too “into yourself” or thinking that you are better than someone else. No, it’s about knowing how to take care of yourself, about positively practicing thinking of yourself and pushing yourself to keep going on those days when you don’t really feel like it. It’s about knowing your worth and not comparing yourself to other people. We all have something very different and unique to offer to the world. We often forget about that but remember how boring life would be if we were all the same.
I Forgive My Negative Thoughts
Everyone has them. Some of us tend to spend hours or even days ruminating on the negative things in our lives and then, we usually get upset with ourselves for being so negative. Learn to forgive your negative thoughts, instead of beating yourself up over them. Instead of trying to stop negative thoughts from occurring, shift your focus to the good things in your life. Let go of your negative thoughts without judgment. Remind yourself that things never end up being as bad as you imagine or make them out to be.
Know those negative thoughts have their purpose too. If we didn’t have negative thoughts, we’d have no idea how good it feels to have good, happy thoughts. When you feel yourself getting upset over something, it’s important to not try to stop those negative feelings from flowing, but to allow yourself to feel them and let them go. Practicing mindfulness can help you change the way your negative thoughts affect you. It will help you see that you are not “not good enough,” but that you’re simply having a thought of not being good enough. Those thoughts are not your truth, they’re not your reality, they’re just that, “thoughts.”
I Am In Complete Charge Of My Life
Sometimes things spin out of control. Sometimes you find yourself opening your eyes in the morning and wanting to close them again, wishing you could just “switch off” for a few days. Well, the truth is that people will disappoint you. Things won’t always go your way. You will not always be able to control things that happen to you. Realizing that you can’t have control over everything that happens to you can be a difficult thing to accept. You have to remember that despite all that, you are in complete charge of your life. You are in charge of your attitude, your thoughts, and beliefs, and most importantly, your actions.
When you were a baby, trying to learn how to walk, you stood up and fell hundreds of times. Yet it never occurred to you to stop trying. The same idea should apply to your life now. You may not have control over things or people who bring you down sometimes, but it’s up to you to stand up, time and time again. You are in complete charge of your life. You are in charge of the way you talk to yourself, and the way you react, even when you can’t always control everything that happens to you.
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